- Put the the phone away.
No texting your feelings, wait until you're both in the same room, noone else is demanding your attention and you are able to express; using 'I' words not 'you' words to describe the disconnect you are feeling. Does your partner feel the same way? Are they wanting to pause and reconnect just as you are? The conversation starts with a conversation.
- Put the phone away
Seeing a pattern here? Getting into a habit of turning your phone on to Do Not Disturb or muting some notifcations after a certain time of day will help limit distractions. Less distractions means the ability to focus more on whats in front of you, i.e. your partner.
- Make time for intimacy
Work, young families and stress can all cause a drain and result in a lack of time and energy for intimacy. Safe, respectful and consential sex can help you to connect again. It sounds so simple and straightforward but by the time the kids are in bed, the kitchen is clean and you've clocked off for the night, sometimes it can be the last thing you feel like.
Whats the saying? You have to motivate to feel motivated? Don't think, just do and you may just surprise yourself.
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Let us know! Did you try any of these three things? Did it improve your connection? Tell us below, we would love to know.